a standard of excellence, achievement, etc., against which similar things must be measured or judged.
You have been making observations around you. Questions are illuminated. Have you reached your mark? The standard of excellence you seek, the one which you judge yourself against, the one the toughest critic sentences upon you; YOU.
The mirror provides a reflection, but how can it be a true measure? It is only when we see ourselves from outside that we can truly identify our quest to make our mark.
Engage an independent advisor, a neutral party, an impartial spotlighter keen to show the shine on your standards of excellence and set a new benchmark. Why wait? Can you afford to?